Why You Absolutely Need To Value Every Moment, Here And Now! By Dr Linda Berman

5578597127_049cd7a79e_5k Martinus Rørbye – Entrance to an Inn in the Praestegarden at Hillested [1844]Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

“Settle in the here and now.
Reach down into the centre
where the world is not spinning
and drink this holy peace.

Feel relief flood into every
cell. Nothing to do. Nothing
to be but what you are already.
Nothing to receive but what
flows effortlessly from the
mystery into form.

Nothing to run from or run
toward. Just this breath,
Awareness knowing itself as
embodiment. Just this breath,
awareness waking up to truth.”

Danna Faulds

Staying in the here and now may have more meaning now, when the UK is largely in lockdown.

It may be more difficult to do, but perhaps it is extra relevant and important in these difficult times in all our lives.

What does it mean to stay in the here and now?

  • Being in the now involves awareness of what is happening inside the self.
  • It means allowing ourselves time to be meditative, to develop consciousness of our breathing, of any tension in the body, any thoughts and any feelings.
  • Staying in the moment means becoming aware of how we feel. This may be difficult at times. It is tempting to allow distractions, such as our mobile phones!

  • Staying in the here and now means we develop an awareness of what is happening around us. What do we see, hear, smell? Are we always too preoccupied to hear the sounds of life around us: the slow, persistent drip of melting snow, that dog barking incessantly in the distance, or the clock ticking?
  • Are we too busy to sit quietly, absorbing the gifts of the here and now?

“What day is it?” asked Pooh.
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
“My favorite day,” said Pooh.”
A.A. Milne

  • Living for now and in the present moment is an important aspect of Buddhist thought.
  • Can we value our lives, knowing that one day they will end? Can we appreciate even the small things, the most fleeting of moments, whilst being aware that such moments do not return? We will never recapture those precious moments. They are lost in time, as one day we ourselves will be.

50690152926_289039c3b1_oDavid Hockney – Portrait of Sir David Webster [1971]Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

Staying with the present moment can mean that we will face reality and truth. We will begin to know ourselves and the world around us better.

It also means valuing our allotted time, moment by moment, and understanding that those periods in our lives that we may see as ordinary, boring or mundane, can in fact be interesting, perhaps quite remarkable.

“The butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.”
Rabindranath Tagore

If we look, we can find beauty in surprising places and in the randomness of unexpected moments.

“Living in the moment is learning how to live between the big moments. It is learning how to make the most of the in-betweens and having the audacity to make those moments just as exciting.”

Morgan Harper Nichols

48096463632_68843b0463_oEdward Hopper – New York Interior [c.1921] Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

The Difficulty Of Staying With The (sometimes mundane) Now.

48753162142_f21682b782_oHuskMitNavn – Take Me Away. Gandalf’s Gallery.

“What would it be like if I could accept life – accept this moment – exactly as it is?”

Tara Brach

It is difficult to live in the now when time is dragging and life feels monotonous. This is especially relevant during the time of Coronavirus, when most of us are spending what feels like endless moments cocooned-or cooped up- in our homes.

“Even the dull moments that make you long to be elsewhere, will prepare you for where you want to be, and you will have gratitude when you arrive there.”

Morgan Harper Nichols

“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.”

Oprah Winfrey

It is during these mundane times that we can try to use our imagination, to make plans for the future, to be creative, or to take some rest.

“Every exceptional writer holds a Master of Arts in Daydreaming.”
Richelle E. Goodrich

Involving ourselves in imaginative activity can help take us out of everyday worries; we can lose ourselves thinking of beautiful places we have been or exciting trips we might take in the future.

“If you fall in love with the imagination, you understand that it is a free spirit. It will go anywhere, and it can do anything.”

Alice Walker

Psychotherapy And The Importance Of Staying In The Here And Now. 

“Happiness, not in another place but this place…not for another hour, but this hour.”
Walt Whitman

Living in the present is not easy. It is difficult to stay with the now, without allowing the mind to wander or (understandably) worry about the current situation or be distracted into the past or into an imagined future.

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.”

Eckhart Tolle

If we are sitting in silence, it is important to remember that silent spaces can be so creative and productive, in our lives and in therapy.

In psychotherapy, as in everyday life, many times, people are afraid of silence. They feel uncomfortable waiting for something to emerge from within themselves, uneasy with staying in the moment.

The therapist can help the patient here by demonstrating a relaxed tolerance of the silent space and a valuing of the opportunity to ‘feel into’ what may be happening this very moment.

The therapist will wait without frustration for something to emerge, rather than rushing to fill the valuable reflective time with superficialities.

This is a way of being present for another person, and very much experiencing the present moment with them.

The state of mind needed for such encounters and the ‘not knowing’ state is described by several therapists, across the spectrum of therapeutic approaches.

For example, Gestalt Therapy emphasises the therapeutic value of staying with the ‘now,’ focussing on what is happening in the present moment.

“The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.”

Abraham Maslow


Alexej von Jawlensky – Seated Woman [c.1909] Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

In the ‘here and now’ of the  therapy room, the patient will inevitably relate to the therapist in ways that are a repeat of both past and present relationships outside the therapy.

Every moment in the here and now of the therapy holographically reflects other moments in our lives, past and present.

“We can experience nothing but the present moment, live in no other second of time, and to understand this is as close as we can get to eternal life.”


If the therapist can stay with what is happening in the present moment between herself and the patient, if she can pick up the parallels between now and then, inner and outer, then considerable valuable insight can be gained into some of the patient’s ways of being.

“The present moment is the only time over which we have dominion.”

Thích Nhất Hạnh

The Art Of Staying With The Mundane: Moments, Objects, Life.

“Observe the wonders as they occur around you. Don’t claim them. Feel the artistry moving through and be silent……..”


50175966307_075e1de609_oClaudio Bravo – Paper Bags [1970]. Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.”
Rainer Maria Rilke

Artists have long known that there can be wonderful interest in the mundane, in the ordinary.

These artists are pointing out to us the fascinating aspects of objects, people, and moments in time that we might overlook.


Yrjö Edelmann – Packed Grey Heaven [1991]Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

How much more would we feel able to stay with the here and now if we developed a more curious attitude about the ‘ordinary’ moments in our lives….

“Nothing is more precious than being in the present moment. Fully alive, fully aware.”

Thích Nhất Hạnh

Then, like the artists, we would be able to appreciate all that we may previously have seen as ordinary.

“There are no ordinary moments.”

Dan Millman

Every painting and every photograph is, actually, a moment, or a collection of blended moments, captured for posterity.

In the Munch painting below, an ‘ordinary’ moment has been recorded for us forever. This is, simultaneously, and paradoxically,  a mundane domestic image, whilst also being unique.

For never again will will see that same soft light, those vibrant, shimmering colours, or that very same woman arranging her hair.

Never again will that brilliant artist capture that moment for us to keep and admire.


Edvard Munch – Woman Looking in a Mirror [1892]Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

We are enabled through the image to peruse that moment whenever we choose, to see its value, its richness, noticing so much more in that time, that space that has, paradoxically, gone long ago.

That is the beauty of capturing an image, for we stop time.

“Forever is composed of nows.”
Emily Dickinson

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“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.”
Henry David Thoreau

6850645501_eed3a46c87_oMax Ginsburg – Bus Stop [2010]. Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

We can look back, through paintings and photographs, to a time when we did not have to socially-distance!

“Wishing you a day

of remaining in

the moment. Not the

past or future or

story. Not your

thoughts or

anxieties or lists.

But right here,

right now,

straight into the


Victoria Erickson

49621217331_9f889429c7_oGeorgia O’Keeffe – Hibiscus [1939]. Gandalf’s Gallery. Flickr.

©Linda Berman

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  1. Dear Linda,

    Hello! My name is Vicki Prais and I am a very good friend of Laura Forster. She sent me your blog which she thought might be of interest to me. I have to say that I have found your posts to be such a great help given these difficult times right now. They have really helped to focus and centre me and to think that there is a way out of this and that these difficult times will indeed pass.

    I have particularly appreciated the blog as I am surrounded by a lot of toxic and negative friends who are anti-vaxxers and see no way out of this situation. It is bringing me down a lot and is affecting my mental health to be around such negative energy. Your blog posts have been such an inspiration! Thank you!

    Warm wishes,


    Liked by 1 person

    • Aww Vicky, what a wonderful message! Thanks so much for getting touch. I’m really pleased that you have found my posts helpful. That makes me feel it’s so worthwhile and is very encouraging. I know how difficult it has been coping with all the structures and lockdowns this past year , in different ways for all of us. If I can bring some small relief to you and others, during this awful time, then I’m really glad. With all good wishes to you and Laura, Linda. 🙏🤗🌹


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